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Happy Birthday to our Boys

I have had the best intention of writing on here for a long time. To say it is hard is a slight understatement, but I figured Birthday Wishes are a great way to break the ice and continue to tell more of our family's journey even if our Oscar isn't here with us.


 1 year old Oscar would have been and to think we have gone 338 days without him. It still seems surreal at times, but his life forever changed us and not a day goes by and sometimes even an hour that he is not thought of by Brian or I. Oscar is forever missing from our family here on Earth, but oh the glorious day that we will be reunited with our son in Heaven.

I am thankful that our God was walking with us before Oscar even made his worldly debut and has continued each day after. Our God is faithful, He is good, He loves us, and His plans for each one of us are much bigger and higher than what our humanly minds can comprehend. 

 Our sweet Theodore turns 4 today. It is hard believe he has been around that long. He is one caring little boy who enjoys helping others and I believe gives the very best hugs. Theodore asked multiple times yesterday if Oscar was coming back for his birthday. We told him no, but I am sure they celebrated quite well in Heaven. 

We love you Oscar and Theodore. We are blessed to call you our sons. You both have made your Dad and I better people and continue to show us how to love one another more. We are thankful for you two.

I am certain that I will see the Lord's goodness in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and courageous. Wait for the Lord. -Psalm 27:13-14-
The Lord's goodness has looked different than what I expected, but goodness can be found in each and every day even the really hard days. Thank you to each one of you that continues to journey with us. You many times have been that goodness for Brian and I when we needed it. The Lord knows what we each need and when, so thank you for loving us and being there for us. I hope to write more soon and how we have journeyed through our loss of Oscar. People have told me it would be healing and I think they are probably right. #OscarStrong


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